So I went out last night to a bar to meet a coworker and her friends and listen to a few bands play. The night was going as expected a few drinks, a few bands, a few random comments from guys, and one nice compliment from a lady in the bathroom. It was getting late and my friend had decided to leave, I thought I'd stay to hear some of the last band. Within seconds of them leaving this guy came up and started talking to me. He seemed nice enough, he had moved here from Mazatlan, so we talked about traveling and Mexico. I got to practice some of my Spanish, and although I was terrible he smiled and helped me with the words I had forgotten. Things were going fine and I was enjoying having someone to talk to.
After a bit he decided to go get another drink and said he'd be right back, he then turned towards me and gave me a hug, then a kiss on the cheek, then a kiss on the lips which became longer and longer. Then he left and said he's be right back.
The funny thing is is that I immediately felt a strong disappointment. It wasn't that it was a bad kiss it's just that it wasn't at all what I wanted. I wanted to sit and talk about music and traveling and continue to practice Spanish. I didn't want kissing and making out; and I knew that as soon as he returned that would be his expectation. Why is it that men these days just kiss women 1. without even asking (verbally or physically) and 2. before any form of relationship or connection is made. It just bothers me. I didn't know what to do. I didn't feel like having an awkward "no actually, I'd appreciate it if you didn't kiss me now" conversation and by conversation I mean yelling it at him and hoping he understood what I was saying over the loud rock music.
So... I left.
Yep I just got up and walked out and didn't look back. I felt awful but I really just needed to get away.
The extra sad part is that I had already given him my number and I got a voicemail from him as I was pulling in the driveway at home. Here is what I could make out through the loud rock music in the background
"Hello, this is Emilio. I looked for you all over the place and I can't find you. I hoped to stay in contact with you, and maybe we can talk again. Thank you, I love you, bye."
Ooops, I'm so terrible.
